The prohibition against abortion is taken far more seriously by some than the religious prohibition against non-marital sense. Is that your position, or am I misinterpreting it? April 9, 2012, 12:31 pm. Considering the fact that I know far more gay guys having sex (and lots more of it, with more partners, too) than I do straight people and I can honestly say none of my good gay friends have ever magically come down with HIV, yet I can name 8 people who against all odd just happened get themselves or their lovers knocked up Seriously. Its more than I can handle on a Monday! Nope, none of it matters. reader, bright.beautifulK90+, writes (24 November 2010): A Cried my eyeballs out evry nite. This whole thing could have been prevented that way. Therefore, unless a man has sex only with the intent of becoming a father and only with the intent of never being with another woman, he is an asshole. But if Im going to have casual sex without proper protection, well then Id better damn well be prepared for the potential consequences. It is never the unborn childs fault. Hell, as a parent, I probably should never drive to get coffee because Im risking death in an accident for something I dont need, and yes, I do know that people die in car accidents. And you wonder why people accuse the threads of being hostile toward males? She may have just dumped his ass and now he wants to temporarily get back with LW and knows what to say. You have no opinion in this matter. Coke didnt have to do anything wrong. Nothing. Just something to think about. And lo and behold, thats exactly what youve gotten. How on earth do you propose to make any of this even for everybody, including the child? I have no doubt theyll be happy, healthy, and well-adjusted with a mom so loving as you! She told him she got pregnant on the pill, which I think is a lot of cod wallopBut I think shes tried to trap him and hes untrappable. Exactly why I advocate abortions in those cases. She has no right to be angry at this other woman, and doesnt know what her motives are. Consider that this man is 40 years old, but still immature. If you want to hold this poor man responsible for some child some women decided to create, thats just mean and patriarchal crap. But, in that case as well I would have told the woman to make sure in the future she better protected herself. And throwing money at her only covers one part of that. Now, the woman could want it and the dude not want it. You sure arent one. Wow..two mintueswhen did he realize he couldnt stand her before or after the two minutes? So, Chuck, despite the fact that no one is denying the fact that there are some people out there trying to game the system, Chuck, the fact that shes pregnant is equally their responsibility. Oh I completely agree! Also, e-mail all your questions Terrance Dean: [email protected] Follow Terrance Dean on Twitter: @terrancedean and LIKE Terrance Dean on Facebook, clickHERE! Made my day! It takes two people to make a baby and two people to decide what to do after one of them gets pregnant. There is no such assumption in this case- its more like handing the baby off to some nice-looking person he met in the grocery store and hoping for the best. Sleeping without protection with someone who you knew for two minutes ? Child support is, indeed, a lottery win for women, by which they compel men who had nothing to do with their lifestyle choices to support their lifestyle choices in the manner to which they have become accustomed. If your ex moved on before you did, you might feel as if they won or wonder why you didn't find someone else . He ordered her to get an abortion? Not your body, not your choice. April 9, 2012, 1:10 pm. Ive done that on a number of occasions. April 9, 2012, 1:00 pm. Its a great idea, really, for someone who is unfit and probably on the verge of abuse or something else horrible. I think the LW here should wash her hands of this whole mess and stay away from the drama. Sure. I dont think its necessarily fair. Senior year of high school, you turn to your boyfriend and say the words hes been dying to hear I think Im ready. He responds with Great, Im totally ready to be a dad anyway. Uh, no, were using protection. No, I know. Also, there are so many single parents who have adopted. Sue Jones That is a risk women take. John Rohan Yes, no birth control is perfect, blah blah. I must be bloody kidding myself. Adoption is a completely different matter. I mean every word! That is a WAY better scenario than I mentioned above which would be an in and out dad who pays zilch and really fucks the kids head up. What should I do, View related questions: It really doesnt help the LW at all and doesnt belong here but here we go. Wrapping it up doesnt prevent pregnancy. If he didnt want to wear condomwhateverIll even give him the benefit there. In any event, Im happy to hear what youve shared already! Its only when a baby is involved is when men come to their senses and then have so much things to say like I didnt mean to hurt you, I barely knew her, or the famous line I was drunk. Seriously, cry me a river you ignorant #**>##!!! It just pays. My ex-boyfriend had apparently broken up with a girl who was a.. You had no say in the matter.. wife pays debt sex video. Yes, he had unprotected sex. Well, the law is schizophrenic. Offers may be subject to change without notice. Im pretty sure the guy is being called scum because of his shitty attitude towards the pregnancy and the unborn child. By that logic, virtually every dude on the planet is an idiot. Dont care to be properly identified? Hell pay for it but wants absolutely nothing to do with it. I believe the definition of an immature asshole is a 40-year-old man who wont own up to his responsibility to be a father to the baby he had equal part in creating. Even though people would like to think that the pill is 100% effective it is not. Im lucky that it has worked well for me and Im still childless, especially given the recent breakup and all. She is sovereign over her own body. female End. You are acting like child support is some sort of lottery win for the woman it is court ordered money that is to go towards the care of your child. You should be furious with him and dump his ass! April 10, 2012, 5:06 am, Still, itd be nice if so many women werent so often so shamelessly dishonest about this, wouldnt it? April 9, 2012, 2:14 pm. That happens. April 10, 2012, 5:55 pm, Heterophobe, hmmm, thats new one. This man in the letter has spent those same 25 years being an ever-aging manchild. April 10, 2012, 6:37 pm. Might he have continued sleeping with her? Thanks for listening to me. Consider that this is the kind of guy that has casual sex with people he doesnt really know/like while on break from a relationship with someone he cant live without. Are women less able to care and provide in todays society? Landygirl, I think we should stop feeding the trolls. April 10, 2012, 7:38 pm. There is no way to know this. Thats the way it has to be. For sure, the guy can't worry about the other gent. Youre more than welcome. Please. Abortion is incompatible with compelled child support. Well put. Secondly, it is a medical procedure. The scapegoats arent really the point- women, minorities, the government, poor people, rich people- it doesnt really matter. No man would abandon a woman he impregnates. All we know is that she wants to have the baby- maybe because shes prepared to be a wonderful parent. . Month later, Lady finds out shes preggers. You mean, he should be able to decide whether or not hes emotionally distant and vacant from the life he had equal part in creating? You are indiscriminate in your partner choice and/or birth control? lets_be_honest Cant say Id give one to a stranger but intercourse with a stranger isnt my cup of tea either. At some point you have to recognize your own self-worth and value, otherwise you will keep allowing him and others to walk all over you. Which includes emotional support, not just financial. If there was a child at conception, abortion would be murder. I noticed you dutifully avoided addressing that. And that, fair or not, men do not have the option to compel an abortion or opt out of their financial obligation for any resulting children. It doesnt sound like shes ready or willing to deal with him having fathered a child, especially if he changes his mind and wants to be a part of its life. During the time we both were studying for the bar, we were on a break. My inclination would be to run away from this guy as fast as you can. April 10, 2012, 7:01 pm. April 10, 2012, 5:54 pm. In the future, if I should ever have the desire to date again I would use condoms in addition to birth control to make sure I dont get diseases. Im questioning the inherent fairness of the law today. FireStar .. but what if she did deceive him? Great, yet another fine example of the sheer brilliance and intellect of more and more heterosexuals in this case, the male whom increasingly seem to have all the knowledge and intellect as to where babies come from as, say, your average comatose five year old. I would also ask him to get an STD test because he had unprotected sex. You are upset that someone read browbeat into the word ask but you have no problem making up a whole conversation in your head in the same breath no less even though the LW was explicit. As others have said, she could have been on the pill and he could have used a condom and she still could have gotten pregnant. You dont get to badmouth this woman just because she wont get an abortion that YOU and your boyfriend want her to get. when i was single i acted as if the other people i was involved with werent thinking about it. There are any number of cases where under-age males, 12 years old, 14 years old, 16 years old, get hit for child support because the female teacher who statutorily RAPED them got pregnant. If this woman wants to have the child, then she can have it: why is it up to you or your boyfriend to tell her she cant? Go argue with the feminists. Id be more concerned with him having unprotected sex with someone HE just met. Theres nothing wrong with casual sex. No one should be shocked or angry when they become a parent after doing the exact thing that causes pregnancy. But I almost laughed out loud when I read untrappable. Is anyone else eagerly anticipating the update to this one? However, its your choice whether or not to get back together with him. I get owning up to your responsibilities in an unwanted pregnancy, but you cant really think that is going through every non-idiot males mind when he gets ready to have sex. Steve Kellmeyer I think we need to take a poll. But I would not for one reason other than the fact that trusting him again would be difficult to do (and that would IMHO b. evanscr05 A lottery win implies she is loaded and set for life. Translation: men should think before they poke but women can do whatever they damn well please. Tim. A month after we broke up, she started a new guy. Because otherwise, society would, if you could never work again and started collecting welfare, etc. I get what youre saying. And John, be real for a moment, and honestly tell me you jump in on a number of issues here and not to just defend your brethren who you perceive to be under attack. SweetsAndBeats And I would believe him that he has no interest in her other than convenience. I agree Savannah. WTF are you reading? bittergaymark Marriages (or partnerships) are not secondary to parent-children relationships; nor are they primary. she doesnt have to be unlucky or a liar to be taking her pills incorrectly. So, if you insist that men create children, or even assist in such a thing, you are some kind of slimy pro-lifer meddling in the affairs of independent women who need men like a fish needs a bicycle. What sounded nice in theory is not sounding so great to Jimmy in reality. It doesnt make sense. It's believed to be ineffective because for years people thought there were sperm cells in pre-cum, but that's a myth. RunsWithScissors Why he would be furious with anyone other than himself is beyond me. It's not that bad (though I'll take an IUD's 0.6%, thanks). Okay, Tim. iseeshiny Doesnt matter if they took every precaution to design the worlds best bottle. Stop being a whiny spectator in your own life. And if so, Im ready. You seem too whiny for most womens taste. Because she does not have the right to waive support for the child. 60+ years on this ball-o-dirt and witnessing the madness going on around this place, as well as being an honest-to-God Christian. This is my question for you. They are calling him a scum for not taking any responsibility for happened, and they are calling the LW names for acting like her BF is a saint, and had nothing to do with making this baby. Here are five hard truths every "other woman" should know: 1. April 10, 2012, 6:32 pm. I dont know how Im going to feel about this baby malarky. we are making DW history, here, people!!! Admirable restraint indeed. This is when we see rebound relationships.
